Netflix’s You Me Her returns for season 3 with the trio continuing to figure out the complications of a polyamorous relationship. The steady drama is as predictable as ever but continues to charm.
I have not had the opportunity to discuss the previous seasons, so I will start my You Me Her season 3 review with my thoughts on polyamorous relationships. I am for it. Not in some sleazy sort of way, but if you remove yourself from the confines of the accepted monogamous relationships – our society’s answer to natural biology is to limit the instinct, which is ironically unnatural. Instinctively, and by no fault of our own, we want to fuck a lot of people based on need and sexual desire, so when I see a scenario where a couple recognise that they need to fulfil more than one area in their life, and bravely act on it in a civilised way, I find that extremely intelligent. By default and tiresome tradition, this type of relationship is unfairly frowned upon, but I feel that in the form of entertainment this subject needs to be tackled more.
In the case of You Me Her, from the very start, they have tried to modernize the idea in a proud neighborhood; tackling the story of a modern suburban couple, unable to have children, desperately clinging on to a rusty sex life and slowly but surely realizing they need some sort of fulfillment. The story has well advanced in season 3, where Emma has decided to choose career over a three-way relationship and has gotten whisked away in a lesbian relationship whilst Jack and Izzy try to keep the fire going by trying out the monogamous route.
The problem with You Me Her, which is symptomatic from season 1, is that it takes the subject of polyamorous relationships extremely lightly, to the point where it feels unrealistic. It steps on the edge of comedy. However, it also tries to sell a dynamic where three people partake in problem-solving that usually ends in awkward quick-fire dialogue and sex. This repetitiveness is the same in season 3, with each character accidentally treading on toes but finding charming resolutions. Season 3 is slightly different in that the trio are fragmented and the entire basis is that they need to find a way to become a unit again. Scenarios happen which are major plot points but the story feels the same.
The only takeaway from this is that I continue to fairly enjoy You Me Her. Despite its overly lighthearted approach I really buy into the characters. The dialogue is flagrantly on the nose and the writing is horrendously predictable but Izzy, Jack, and Emma have a way of allowing you to appreciate the unrealistic dynamic. The chemistry between them never seems to die, and in season 3 it is heightened on screen as there is much more at stake. With season 4 probably on the horizon, I guess it is too late for them to revert to a more serious outlook on the three-way relationship, but if the trio consistently musters a smile and a laugh from me then I am all for it. Some series are just made for audiences to enjoy, and You Me Her is a fitting example of that statement.
You Me Her season 3 will not offer anything particularly new despite the new scenarios, but it will continue to charm.