The Tender Bar ending explained – will JR find a father figure to call his own?

January 7, 2022
M.N. Miller 0
Amazon Prime, Ending Explained, Film

This article discusses the ending of the Amazon Prime Video film The Tender Bar (2021) and will contain spoilers.

Ready Steady Cut film critic, M.N. Miller, called George Clooney’s The Tender Bar, a feel-good, coming-of-age film with one of Ben Affleck’s best performances.”

Moehringer’s The Tender Bar: A Memoir chronicles growing up in a tiny hamlet of Manhasset, NY. Two actors play him in two different stages of life. One, as a boy, by YouTube sensation Daniel Ranieri. The other, as a young man, by Tye Sheridan. (And narrated by Ron Livingston). The young boy’s name is JR. He is being raised by his mom (Lily Rabe) in his grandfather’s home (Christopher Loyd) and hanging out with his Uncle Charlie (Ben Affleck). All because of his absentee father, who left him while in the womb. JR has no idea what the loser looks like.

His Uncle has an insatiable appetite for reading that he passes on to his nephew. He runs a bar named after his favorite author, Charles Dickens. Not that JR realizes it, but he is the father figure he doesn’t know he has. Charlie is always there for him by guiding him through life’s most challenging moments. That includes those pesky breakups. He was making sure his grades were high. And kept his spirits up during his mother’s cancer scare. Perhaps, most importantly, he wants to make sure he goes to college like he never could.

Amazon Prime Video film The Tender Bar ending explained

By the film’s end, JR is graduating from Yale University. He found a temporary job working for his dream assignment, the New York Times. And most importantly, he finally stood up to his abusive, alcoholic father (played by Max Martini). However, he did not land that full-time job at his dream paper as a young man. (They felt he needed more experience). The final scenes have his Uncle Charlie giving him the keys to his car. His Uncle and his patrons, a team of father figures, wave goodbye as he starts his new job at a smaller paper.

You’ll notice, during all the turmoil in JR’s life, the pressures of Yale, being consistently betrayed by his would-be girlfriend, and the trauma of child abandonment, he is relatively well adjusted. Perhaps most importantly, he reacts to setbacks and disappointments with a sense of maturity. This would not have been possible without being raised by the village he found at his Uncle Charlie’s bar.

Abandonment can be a trauma that leads to stunted growth in a child’s psychosocial development. Or, at the very least, delay a proper transition into the Identity versus Identity confusion stage that’s very important in a teenager’s growth. Not to mention, a single-parent home can have a devastating impact on a child’s outcomes, such as lower achievement, more discipline problems, and school suspension, less high school graduation, lower college attendance and graduation, increased rates of incarceration, and substance abuse (Daryanai et al., 2017).

You’ll notice throughout the film, JR never displayed those traits and achieved accomplishments most can only dream of. There are also many scenes where his friends comment on how Charlie is like a father to JR; he consistently blows it off or doesn’t even realize what is right in front of him. The effort Charlie, his family, and friends put into raising JR the right way never let him veer off the straight and narrow path of success. (Remember the great scene where Charlie tells his nephew, rather bluntly, watch the drinking?).

That’s the point that many critics and others are not embracing about The Tender Bar. They question why there is no real point to the film or story. The explanation needs to be explained, and it’s relatively simple but just as important.

JR never really questioned who his father figure was because he never had a chance to miss it. He had it the entire time.

A village raised him, or in this case, a tiny hamlet in upstate New York.

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