Sex/Life season 1, episode 3 recap – “Empire State of Mind”

June 25, 2021
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Episode 3 taps further into sexual desires with another steamy chapter; the main question is, will Billie give in and betray her marriage?

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Episode 3 taps further into sexual desires with another steamy chapter; the main question is, will Billie give in and betray her marriage?

This recap of Netflix’s Sex/Life season 1, episode 3, “Empire State of Mind,” contains major spoilers.

Read the recap of the previous chapter.

Billie and Cooper’s problem is not going to go away soon; sex is on their minds, but not in a healthy way as the Netflix series gets steamier with each chapter.

Episode 3 opens with a flashback scene of Billie and Brad having sex in a car — it’s clear there is untapped passion between them. Billie doesn’t care that people can see her in the car window, she continues anyway — she narrates how it is hard to replicate that feeling. In the present day, Cooper is masturbating to Billie’s journal (it’s not making him throw up anymore). Upstairs, Billie is considering whether to delete her message from Brad.

Where did that other girl go?

And we delve further into Billie’s mindset in episode 3; she doesn’t feel like the same woman — she feels like a shadow of herself, which is quite a depressing thought.

Bille joins Cooper in the shower and tries to initiate sex to continue what happened the night before, but her husband brings the usual excuses. When Cooper leaves the house, Billie admits to herself that Brad is right, she is a liar. She then recalls when she started her journal and described the pains of early motherhood, but how when the children get older, it gets easier — Billie wondered where her other self went. To make matters worse, Billie looks at old video footage of her and Brad.

Helping Hudson with the transition to school

But it is back to motherhood quickly for Billie as she snaps back to reality.

Billie then realizes she can’t see Hudson. He was hiding as he doesn’t want to go to school. Billie takes him in and tries to reassure him with the preschool transition. The teacher tells Billie to stay at school the whole day to help Hudson adjust and references how she isn’t working now. You can see it on Billie’s face — this is not the life she wants.

This brings a flashback with Billie and Brad heading to a fancy hotel to meet Brad’s mother. Brad tells Billie to relax in the elevator and gives her 19 floors to orgasm. And they manage it with Brad licking his fingers as the elevator doors open.

Researching Brad

We can’t blame Cooper for being equally obsessed with Brad; after all, his wife is desperate to relive the times she had with her ex…

At work, Cooper researches Brad on his laptop and sees him on the cover of Rolling Stones magazines and appearing at awards shows. He’s making it unbearable for himself. But he can’t research for long as the company he’s picked as a client is chosen as the next project by his boss (who seems to have the hots for him). Cooper does not seem bothered about his work opportunity and instead stalks Brad around the city streets to look at him. He’s measuring him up and eventually follows the man into a gym.

Cooper watches Brad work out as he works out. It gets weirder as Brad watches Cooper in the shower and sizes him up to see his big dick — he’s wrecking his own soul. He vents at the showerhead as Brad leaves. He’s making himself insecure at this point.

“I can’t stop thinking about him.”

Billie rings Sasha and tells her that she cannot stop thinking about Brad and she’s jealous that she’s having sex with him — she states nothing has changed with her and Cooper. She wants to know how it started between Sasha and Brad. Sasha explains how she bumped into Brad in Paris while working and describes the sex as good. Billie tells Sasha to date Brad “for real,” but Sasha tells Billie that he’s bad news and feels she is romanticizing it all.

Meeting the parents 

And then comes the flashback where Billie meets Brad’s mother, and it’s a wonderful time at first. The mother loves her, but then Brad’s stepfather turns up, and Brad’s face turns sour, and he wants to leave immediately. His stepfather starts telling Billie that Brad “loves the chase,” and soon as he gets bored, he moves on to the next woman. Brad throws a glass at the wall and leaves.

And then, we see the nasty side of Brad as he struggles to deal with his parents. Brad tries to get rid of Billie straight away by ordering her a taxi. He starts ripping into Billie about her “red neck mother” and wonders if her father gave her enough attention — he feels if her father did, she wouldn’t have sex with a stranger on the first night. He tells her she isn’t special and that she isn’t his girlfriend. Brad leaves her sobbing on the side of the street.

Letting Brad back in

However, regardless of how Brad spoke to her, in the present day, Billie cannot stop thinking about Brad — she knows Cooper wouldn’t treat her that way. In a flashback, Billie confides with Sasha, but then Brad shows up, and Billie goes outside to meet him. Brad admits to “screwing up” and apologizes — he doesn’t want to lose her. He asks for five minutes and states his stepfather is right, but he doesn’t want to mess up with her. Billie gives in and lets Brad into her apartment (Sasha is disappointed).

When they sit down, Brad explains that his birth father left him when young, but he’d always send records. Brad believed if he got big enough in music that his father would show up. He still misses him. Seeing Brad’s emotional state, Billie lets him back in, and they kiss.

Breast milk and car sex 

And episode 3 shows how bad it really is getting in Billie and Cooper’s marriage — if you have to psyche yourself up for sex with your long-term partner, then something is wrong.

Back to the present, and Billie waits for Cooper after work in a beautiful red dress. She’s even got the car fixed. Brad grabs her hand and puts it on his crotch — they get in the car for sex. Once again, Cooper uses the journal as a manual. However, in a funny moment, breast milk squirts on Cooper’s face, and it distracts him too much, and they stop. But then Cooper refuses to give up, and they go into the missionary position. Billie asks him to slow down, but Cooper speeds up, and he ejaculates. Billie’s face says it all — she’s completely unsatisfied.

The ending of Sex/Life season 1, episode 3

Brad meets Sasha, and he asks her if Billie is fine with them. Sasha states they can have sex whenever they want, as Billie is okay with it. Brad tries to engage with her sexually, and she calls him cocky, stating he could be the reason she doesn’t want to have sex, however, he doubts that statement. Late in the night, Billie gets a call from Sasha, but when she answers it, it’s Brad, who says, “So you have been thinking about me after all.” Billie tells Brad to be with Sasha and that it is none of her business. Brad does not believe her and turns the call into a video call. When she answers, he’s placed the camera so she can see him having sex with Sasha against the wall. Billie watches and fingers herself — she’s turned on by it.

Episode 3 taps further into sexual desires with another steamy chapter; the main question is, will Billie give in and betray her marriage?

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